In the life of every child can be a time when you start using profanity. As parents often do not, many of them are shocked and react desperate, not knowing how to handle the situation. Here are some tips for prevent children say bad words.

VOCABULARY IN CHILDREN:

One very important thing that parents obviated when their children start insult and say profanity is that children are not born with that vocabulary, or with none.

This means:

• first, that they must have heard those words in any context, but not exactly the home or direct talks with them. Needless to diagnose that frequents places, so that we know what the origin of repetition.
• Second, observe when and why he uses little. Children often use bad words as a reason of grace, knowing that it is forbidden provokes a hilarious and repeated pleasure to see the faces of their parents’ astonishment. They are acts of mischief, basically not unhealthy. In these cases, it is best to explain what the meaning and connotation of these words. Generally, losing that sense of mystery, children stop using them.
• Sometimes the children are using that vocabulary rude because they need to express anxieties, frustrations, fears, anger who have been trapped in them and do not know how to communicate.
• Here is worth the same, a good conversation with the child, offering the possibility of using other alternatives. There are words or phrases in our language that have the same expressive load and are not rude (gee, gosh, wow, etc.). Eye: the most important thing here is to know what is happening to the child. It is not enough to express better if left behind discontent and aggression, which is then expressed otherwise.

How to handle the Abusive language:

TODDLERS

• Young children the best solution is to ignore them. If you do not react, probably will not use the bad word again.
• Another variation is to transform the word that told a similar normal usually emphasize this.

SCHOOL CHILDREN

• In this age school children already know what they mean and what bad words provoke reaction. Often try to test the limits.
• Very importantly, stay calm and serenity.
• What more awaits your child is that you skids and alarm reactions. Instead, explain why you can not use those words, that some people do but that children should not use them.
• Use the advice you have offered and, above all, stay calm and be consistent. If you handle the situation well the problem will disappear gradually.

How to prevent children insult

It’s a rather embarrassing situation when we are with our children and children insult someone, Either from another child or an adult. It is important not to let ignore this situation and we talk to our children about it, otherwise it could become a habit very difficult to change.

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Educating by example is the most important advice we give.

What children learn at home then repeated everywhere, and it is crucial not to listen at home profanity or insult others, even jokingly.

CURIOUS KIDS

• Children often do not really know that they are somehow attacking someone, like when they say: “Look mom that gentleman nose! In these situations they are not intentionally insulting, but are expressing and sharing their curiosity.
• In these cases, if we find that the person has listened, we quickly offer an apology and tell our son who will talk about this later.
• When we get home we calmly explain that we all have different appearances and that while the look of someone can get our attention, we should not point this out because it can be offensive.

INSULTING MAY SEEM FUNNY

• Sometimes children have learned on TV or any other children and perhaps offensive insult seems he’s saying something funny. In these cases we must tell you that what you just said is an insult and should not to repeat these words in any field.
• The way to deal with the situation will be different depending on the age of your child. If your child is 4 or 5 years and is able to understand when you say that was rude, which has hurt the other person, and not to use such expressions.
• For older children, generally they already knew the words that could be offensive and therefore should not say them to anyone.
• If your child has insulted someone ask first why you have, then explain that his attitude was not appropriate and that made you angry, finally reversed the situation and ask how you would feel if someone insulted.

TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT

• No matter the age of the child, the dialogue is always the best way to address such problems, it is the only way you will understand why children should not have this kind of attitude.
• If you yell or punish them without giving any explanation, will not understand that their behavior was not appropriate.
• Punishing a good disciplinary action Should such occurrences, but remember always give an explanation, but the punishment will not be useless because they will not learn anything from it.

EXPLAIN THE MEANING OF WORDS

• In as few words as possible, explain the meaning of the words the child has used and let him face the meaning. It will make you uneasy, but the step is important.
• It is usually an eye-opener for the child. Innocent as they are, they usually have no clue as to what the words imply.
• It is certainly not their intention to say words to that effect. They may simply be using it as an unconscious exclamation, and without the precise comprehension.
• Sometimes, children use such language even to simply gain the attention of their parents.
• (Remember, you will need to adapt this step depending upon the maturity level of your child.)

Whatever you expect from your child, you must give it to him first. Use respectful language at home – be polite to the spouse, to the child and to everyone who enters your home. Build your child’s self-esteem. Also, take him to gatherings where he can see how refined people interact. It will surely bring about a great deal of positive change in your child.

Language is our way of communicating what we want and who we are. By using bad language, we diminish the divine spark within us that defines our humanity.

Dr. Laura Schlesinger